High School Relationships

Earlier today, I saw an old picture of some friends from homecoming, just last September. Then, I started noticing all of the couples. And I noticed the couples that were together then, but are broken up now. And that got me thinking.

In those past relationships that I have seen crumble before my eyes, it was always the girl that broke up with the guy (aka, the girls' fault). There was a significant difference between those who broke up and those who were still together. There wasn't real feelings between the two that broke up. They were just using each other to have fun. And that concerns me. You can have a lot of fun without being in a relationship. In the world's view, the whole idea of dating is to have fun, but personally, I think dating is a lot more than that. Dating should be a time when you try to get to know a potential future spouse.

High school. They were only 15 or 16 in the picture. We are still maturing, young adults. We have so much we can/could do before we engulf our whole life around a relationship. There is so much life to live! There is so much growing to do!

So why not take a stand and just save yourself from heartache? Why not just "be friends" with the opposite sex? High schoolers are still so young!

Now don't get me wrong, I am the first person to say that high school relationships can turn out. My oldest brother, who is probably the first dating couple I ever really knew, met his fiance freshman year in high school, started dating sophomore year, and are getting married after they both have graduated from college, which is this October. But having a high school sweetheart is the exception, not the rule.

Ladies, we need to wait for boys to become men. We need them to have a steady path in front of them. We need them to know what they believe and why they believe it, before they come after us. We need to respect them {and ourselves} by wearing appropriate clothes. We need to stop "test driving" relationships and just wait to have God write our love stories, instead of us trying to figure it out on our own.

So until you meet "Mr. Right" or "Mrs. Right", why not take some time for yourself. Travel the world. Accomplish everything on your bucket list. Get to know God like He's your best friend. Spend Friday night with your buddies. Get a steady job. Graduate. Work to be the best "you" you can be. And when the time comes where you meet your future spouse, you'll have lots of stories and experiences you won't regret. Because let's face it, you'll be spending a LOT of time with the person you'll marry!